So you thought you’d found it—a virtual candy store, a hyper-smorgasbord of past loves, current crushes and maybe, just maybe your future soul mate? Now, after a few months of Facebook flirting, you begin to wonder why it hasn’t gone anywhere.
If you’ve been fruitlessly scavenging social networking sites for your next date (or were even considering it), take a hint from the cues below.
1. Status means nothing. So his status reads single, you say? News flash: People lie on the Internet (and via text message). People lie in real life too, but it’s much easier to be dishonest when you don’t have to look someone in the eye.
2. You can’t judge a book by its cover. Online profiles are as good as—well, online profiles when determining someone’s personality and/or looks. It’s true that someone may give you a wrong number at the bar. They may even pretend to be someone they’re not, but if you’re a smart guy or gal, you’ll find out soon enough. Trouble is, someone may give you the wrong everything online and make it look oh so real.
3. The “network” is misleading. So you’re thinking that the friend of a friend of a friend might as well be your friend too? Just because someone friends you on Facebook DOES NOT mean they want to “friend” you in real life.
4. It’s all in his body language. Oh wait, you can’t read his body language because you’ve never actually hung out with him in real life. A person’s posture, gestures and overall swagga say so much. But you forfeit all of those clues when you court virtually. And who wants to trade holding hands for tagging photos?
5. She’s just not that into you—but she might pretend she is online. Flirty messages on your wall but no phone call, huh? The truth is anyone can give you the run-around at anytime, regardless of the way in which you meet. However, social networking sites are prime preying territory for attention-seeking individuals who have no intention of following through with any of their pokes, winks or tweets. By design, these sites enable your crush to keep distance while still keeping your attention, a way to “connect” without really connecting. So much for their sales pitch.
If you’re looking for a fantastical junior high romance, social networking sites were made for you. However, if you’re seeking a substantive, real-life relationship, you might want to hang up your Twitter hat. Because online directories are still no match to the matchmaking abilities of good old Mom.